Feeling blessed all the time
It has been 8 years since I left my abusive marriage and I swear that there is not a day that goes by that I am not grateful for my life now.
I refuse to be negative or be a hater about things that happened or didn’t happen in my life.
I was just speaking to my daughter about this. My grandmother and my ex mother-in-law are so bitter and angry about their divorces, even 40 years later. I’ve learned that I don’t want to be like them.
Every time I call my ex mother in law, it seems like she wants me to be mad about her son, like she is about his dad. I refuse to be sucked into that. I could care less about the trips he and his girlfriend go on, or the presents he buys her. As far as I’m concerned she deserves everything she gets from him as I know what she is putting up with.
I will not bad mouth him to my children because as much as he wasn’t a good husband, he was always a good father. I have moved on, I learned to own my own shit and forgive him for his. Whether or not I ever will get an apology from him. I’ve learned to move on without one.
I’ve learned to be grateful for the small things in life, just waking up, a sunrise or sunset. The breeze at the beach, the birds singing. I’ve learned money can’t buy you happiness and my happiness now comes from within, from God, my girls and my family and friends.
I can’t waste a second on being a hater, holding a grudge or continuing to dwell on what happened in the past. I have an amazing life to live and whatever time I have left here I will spend looking for the positive not the negative.
So today my friends remember life is a choice, you get to choose to be bitter or angry. You get to let the past go and start over. You get to be anything or anyone you want to be, this is your life and you only get one go around, so use it wisely.
Like I say at the end of every blog…
“Be the change you want to see”
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